The Golden Rule

[Hellmanns]

Originally Posted by Cole_Robbie

I've always felt that people fail to understand that the effect of treating people well is that they tend to do the same to you in return. So even if a person only cares about themself and their own interests, the best way to advance those interests is to be nice to other people. It's a paradox - being selfishly unselfish.

I have all my life been nice and unselfish to people, even going back to my childhood. Boy, have I attracted a lot of close friends over my life. But the friendships would never last for more than a few years at most. Just about the time I would say to myself, " I think this person is one of the nicest people I know what a great friend this person is" they then belittle me, and talk down to me, or become dishonest, or would start avoiding me.

This has went on since school. Over the last 50 years I can count 10 people who I though were best friends act this way. When I was in my 30's, out of the clear blue I had a best friend of 5 years just tell me I was a piece crap for this or that and just leave. At that point, I started to question myself and kinda withdrew for a year or so.

When my son was diagnosed with ADHD, I got interested in the disorder began reading about it to educate myself. That is when I came across narcissistic personality disorder. The more I read about narcissism, the more I realized the friends I had attracted were narcissistic. I now know I'm a narcissistic magnet! At this point I'm cautious of new people who try to get close to me quickly!

Narcissist all act the same way, just as my friends did. They all came to me first, and wouldn't leave. They became very interested in my lifestyle, work, and hobbies. They then begin to act like me, and even dress like me. They were all extremely jealous when I mentioned another friend, or went to see/or another friend shows up. Then, out of the blue they swat you like a bug, then step on you.